Meeting Daddy

I called Baby daddy last week to arrange that catch up we've been talking about. He seems genuinely interesting in seeing up. WE plan to meet at a mutual friends BBQ on Australia day. Exactly 1 year since I saw him last. I wait all day, trying my hardest not to hold my breath incase he lets us down. WE text back an forth and i get about 5 "im on my way" texts over the course of the day. I send 1 back at 4pm "im leaving"
He calls, He's out the front. I head to out greet him and get a surprisingly big hug! WE head in and i introduce him to his daughter. We are both more than aware of all the eyes on us so we head out for a walk about some privacy. We showed a united front which kept our old crew off our backs and when we were finally alone her picked her up for a cuddle. He's impressed at her alertness, and of course, her cuteness.
We keep the visit low key and drama free. I make a few threats and points about what I expect. I've decided I'm happy for him to see her whenever he likes but he does it on my watch as I wont leave her in his care until I know he can put her safety and well being before his own. He's more than fine with that.

Im surprised at how please he seems to see me as well as her and we get along really well. He agrees that I'm doing a good job the way I am and doesn't stand in the way of my wishes and concerns. He listens to my points without arguement  and promises to respect my wishes. we make no plans other than another visit in a few weeks in a more personal environment and we call it a night.

I've been crisitised for being to lenient on Baby daddy as he should be accountable for his actions too. I'm also in the firing line for failing to apply for child support therefore Peyton being the one to suffer.
Left me make things very clear! My daughter goes without nothing!! She has more than everything she ever needs without being spoilt to over-compensate. I only Handle the baby daddy situation in ways I'm comfortable with and sacrifice nothing to suit him. Yes I make life easy for him but I'm happy to do it and it is NOT at mine or my daughters expense.
Yes I live at home but we are not and more dependent on Peytons Grandparents than anyone should be and I am here to help me connect to dots for the bigger picture. My parents DO NOT compensate what I sacrifice from Baby Daddy and both my living situation and my relationship with baby daddy is temporary until I decide what is best for Peyton.